Working With Others
Objectives
- To gain a personal insight on how I relate to others.
- What behaviors I need to improve upon to become a better leader.
- To see how others view and perceive my personal behaviors.
Behaviors That Are Essential To High Level Human Relations
Listed below are a number of behaviors that are essential to relating to others. Rate yourself on these behaviors, using the following scale:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Very Moderately Adequate Moderately Very Weak Weak Strong Strong
Note: a rating of 5 means that you would considered yourself a resource person (if only minimally so). That is, in a relationship or group, you would be more of a giver rather than a receiver.
- ______ Feelings: I am not afraid to deal directly with emotion rather it is my own or others. I allow myself to feel and give expression to what I feel.
- ______ Initiative: In my relationships I act rather than react by going out and contacting others without waiting to be contacted.
- ______ Respect: I express that I am for others even if I do not necessarily approve of what they do.
- ______ Genuineness: I do not hide behind roles or facades. I let others know where I stand.
- ______ Concreteness: I am not vague when I speak to others. I do not beat around the bush in that I deal with concrete experience and behavior.
- ______ Immediacy: I deal openly and directly with others. I know where I stand with others and they know where they stand with me.
- ______ Empathy: I see the world through the eyes of others by listening to cues, both verbal and nonverbal, and I respond to these cues.
- ______ Confrontation: I challenge others with responsibly and with care. I do not use confrontation to punish.
- ______ Self-disclosure: I let others know the person inside, but I am not exhibitionistic. I am open without being a secret-reveler or secret-searcher.
- ______ Self-exploration: I examine my life style and behaviors and want others to help me to do so. I am open to change.
Scoring
There are no correct or incorrect scores. This assessment simply shows you where you stand in your relations with others. Your goal should be to work on the lowest scoring of the 10 behaviors.
Also, have one or two others rate you so that you can get an outside view of yourself as to whether you are projecting yourself to others as you believe you are.